Your little way

Let’s talk about mummy friends. Do you have them? Did you want them? How did you find them—or are you still looking?

When I first became a mum, I found the experience surprisingly isolating. A couple of my friends had babies too, but they were just about surviving—like me—and the rest were still living in a world that didn’t revolve around nap schedules and muslin cloths. I ventured out to baby classes, but going alone felt daunting. Sometimes the baby would get sick and we’d have to skip a few weeks, and just like that, the tentative connections I’d started to make would fizzle out. It felt very stop-start, with no real rhythm.

Things began to shift once my kids started preschool. Through playdates, I began to form real friendships with other mums. Some of those women are still part of my life now. We’re not all as close as we once were—life and growing children have a way of creating space—but we still make the effort to reconnect.

Once school started, I noticed a new dynamic at the school gates: there were definite “types” of mums. The working mums, the PTA mums, the mums who’d known each other since childhood, the grandparent-stand-in mums, the nannies, the always-on-it sporty mums—I’m sure you know what I mean. Fitting in can feel like a weird throwback to high school, except now it’s filtered through the lens of parenting.

I remember someone once said to me, “Oh, you’re that kind of mum—you bake.” And it made me laugh, but it also made me wonder… Are we unintentionally steering our children’s friendships based on who we connect with? Or are we just going with the flow? I’ll admit there was a time when my child was friends with another child, but we never did playdates because, honestly, we just didn’t click.

Still, there’s no denying how important it is to have mum friends who get it. They’re the ones who show up when your kid is sick, who cover the school run when you’re stuck, who host your child during snow days, and who—when you’re deep in the thick of the teenage years—listen to you rant and reassure you that you’re not the only one struggling.

Working alongside so many mothers now, and looking back at my own early days, I remember constantly feeling like everyone else was doing it better. The pressure to explain and justify every decision: We’ve chosen this feeding method… we’re trying this routine… we’re following this sleep approach… It was endless. And exhausting.

That’s why I created Your Little Way—to bring families together in a space that’s supportive, not judgmental. Because your way might not be their way—and that’s absolutely okay.

So tell me—how has your experience been? Have you found your circle? Are you still searching? Do you want mummy friends, or are you happy doing things solo?

Let’s talk about it.